just being yourself

[merinass (deleted)]

I think part of the issue..or problem is simply the fantasy and reality don't match up. Regardless of whether or not you're a man seeking a woman, vice-versa or whatever else I think what happens is we see what we WANT to see and not what is actually right in our faces. Finally, when the reality hits, not that the reality is bad, it causes problems. Disillusionment is tough to handle no matter what.

[piecrust]

`I know from my experience that men do judge women by their appearance.. That's the first thing they do. They look at the body, not the personality. I know that many men had --- with beautiful women first before they got to know their personalities. Unfortunately, many good looking women do have a very bad temper and if they have children, they are not always good mothers. And that's the sad part. Men just don't think with their heads when they fall hard for a good looking woman. Too many children are emotionally damaged because their fathers find later that their women are unfit mothers.
So it's very important for the man to check out the woman's personality and everything first before he jumps in bed with her. There are way too many children ending up in foster homes because their mothers were not good to them. I'm not saying that beautiful women are evil. No. But that's why I just say "Be careful".
I remember a native girl who had a very hard time finding Mr. Right because her breasts were flat. I cannot reveal her true name. But I can invent her name. Let me call her "Rae"
She used to be in a relationship with a Hopi boy in high school. She lost her virginity to him because she loved him. But his family did not approve her. So they pressured him to leave her. And he did. He married a Hopi girl. Rae was very hard broken. She was an inner city girl. He was country boy. She was very tomboy and liked to do wild things like drive racing off the mountains overlooking a big city.
After he left her, Rae was in another relationship with a native boy. But he, too, left her and got another girl pregnant. Rae was then in another relationship, this time, with a married man who had 3 kids. He was also native. But they broke up. Rae no longer believed in marriage stuff. She eventually had a baby girl but no marriage.
I noticed that men do prefer women with big breats. I also know that other guys prefers slim girls. Others prefer big women. I know a man who is half Japanese and half white. His mother was Japanese. She had really very small breasts. He liked dating small women with small breasts just like his mom. He is over 6 feet tall. He is just different from others. He said he did not care for big breasts. So all the guys all have varying preferences. So I find that interesting.